10/21/19, Healthy Living and Remodeled Cars


Hi Everyone,


I hope you’ve had a good week, and you’ve had some happy surprises, whatever they may be.


This has been one of my long travel weeks, involving several long plane trips, the usual delayed flights, long waits in security, and time on my hands, so I’ve had time to read magazines, and catch up on movies to help pass the time. I usually learn something new from the magazines, which this time led to some serious thought and musing about the times, and how things have changed. The most obvious change from my childhood and youth is that now everyone has a cell phone in their hand (my children literally sleep with their phones), and everyone texts instead of talking on the phone. Those who do talk on the phone do so with ear buds in their ears, talking loudly to themselves (or so it seems) walking down the street, and looking crazy. Personally, I hate texting, and miss the sound of a human voice. No one actually answers their phone, it all goes to voice mail, and they screen their calls.


Aside from the lightning speed of technology, the word one hears constantly now is ‘healthy’. And obviously, being aware of good health is a good thing. Everyone exercises, people count their steps, people look better, live longer, and it’s a good change—-within reason. I also find though that the word ‘healthy’ hides many things. I grew up on Hostess Twinkies (my favorite food at one time), cookies that had enough chemicals in them to preserve them into eternity, Wonder Bread (It still makes great French toast), and when I taught Sunday school, I bribed the children with candy until their parents picked them up. (And in Europe, I ate the equivalents, and ate and handed out lollipops) And I gave my children eventually chocolate flavored breakfast cereal, and sugar was considered okay. Children today get popsicles made of brussel sprouts and broccoli (I’m sorry…yerghk!!!), and fashionable young women live on Kale, which I admit that I hate. And most children in ultra-health conscious homes have never tasted sugar. I agree that my generation went overboard with the less healthy treats, but this one goes overboard too. And I find that ‘healthy’ is often a word used to hide ultra-low calorie, or no calorie foods for young women obsessed with their weight and are much too thin. What they mean is non-fattening and call it ‘healthy’. I’ve never had a problem with my weight, so it’s one battle I didn’t have to fight, and could even occasionally eat a donut (I wouldn’t dare today!!). And yes, we did and ate unhealthy things, and I’ve always been lazy about exercise except right after a baby, to get back to my normal weight. And I was lucky, I always bounced back pretty quickly. In contrast, all of my daughters go to the gym pretty much every day, and some get up at 4 am to go to the gym at 5 am, so they can exercise and be ready for work. I don’t think there is enough money in the world to get me to a gym at 5 am, or at any hour. I pay slight homage to the times with an exercise coach once in a while, not very often though. I’m lazy, and lucky, because my weight, on the low side, has stayed the same. And I try not to eat too much chocolate cake!!! I’m careful.


I find that not only do we eat better now, and exercise more in the US, but our exterior looks have become an obsession too. I was shocked to discover that young women in their 20’s are getting Botox shots now to get rid of signs of age—what age? At 22?? And assorted other shots and surgeries. In big cities, among sophisticated young women who can afford it, they are having countless shots, surgeries, electrical procedures, and treatments to improve their looks and combat the signs of age long before aging starts. They’re barely out of their teen age years when they start. I’m stunned by how much they do, and how early they do it. None of my daughters do, fortunately, but they do eat healthy and exercise a lot—–and I haven’t done anything in that vein (of surgery and shots), because not only am I lazy, but I’m a major coward. Having plastic surgery scares me to death!!! So I live with what nature hands out. I throw cold water on my face, and don’t look in the mirror too hard, and hope for the best.


And on my recent flight, I will confess to buying a magazine that told me how to look better naked. Not that I’m planning to walk down the street naked or have an audience, but for about 1 week a year I go to the beach, and don’t want to frighten the children (my own or other people’s). I expected to read about a few exercises I could do (maybe the week before my annual vacation), and found myself reading of surgical procedures I’d never heard of and couldn’t dream of. And by the time I finished reading the issue, I had lost all hope of ever looking decent in a bathing suit again, but somehow realizing how much people do, and the lengths they go to (not to mention the expense), I found it depressing that one has to fight THAT hard to look decent, and go to such extreme lengths to combat any sign of age and time on one’s body. I have to do ALL that? Wow, that is depressing, because I’m never going to have all that surgery. I’m just too chicken. It’s okay, I’ll wear a sweater or a coat to the beach next year. How far do we take this? How far are we willing to go? And what if it goes wrong? What if you don’t like your new face or body? I’ve kind of made friends with the old one, we’ve been together for quite a while. It just seems like we have to do SOOOOO MUCH now to stay in the game and look attractive, be healthy, and get all our steps in!!! Wow….it sounds like so much work, and what’s real in the end? What’s left of the original model? Not much in many cases. While claiming to be more genuine and more real and more honest and even liberated today, are we becoming Barbie dolls, by replacing all the moving parts, and attacking every inch of ourselves, with a shot, an electrical jolt, or the knife?? Is this really better?? Maybe I’m making excuses for my own cowardice, but suddenly it all seems so false. And at a certain point, gravity gets us all. Things are a little less extreme in Europe, but it’s happening there too. I suspect that every woman I know even in Europe gets shots of some kind in their face, from their early 20’s on. And many do a lot to their bodies too. It started with liposuction, and has gone way, way beyond that.


It somehow reminded me old cars that are being restored. I’ll bet that I don’t know a single woman of any age who isn’t doing something, at least shots if not surgery, and many of them surgery, to alter their looks. I don’t like getting older either, and no one hates birthdays more than I do, but somehow I think it’s sad if we have to have surgery, shots, and all those treatments to ‘stay in the game’, whatever the game is. I’ll bet there are damn few natural women left in the world. What about feeling good about who we are, where we are (within reason), without surgery?? It’s a novel idea these days. And something to think about. The Millennials have a firm grip on the world these days, and are getting a jump start on fighting age. Healthy is good, but I don’t want to have a year of surgery for my one week at the beach every year. It’s all pretty scary, and a mass panic (anti-age creams by big name brands cost $600. and $700. I’m probably ridiculous, but I’d rather buy shoes).


Anyway, you won’t be seeing me run down the street naked anytime soon. I refuse to eat Kale (it tastes like rubber to me), and I’ll do some exercise, but I have no idea how many steps I take. I can still make it to my typewriter, and chase after my millennial children, and 5 dogs, and publish 7 books a year. Do I really have to have shots and surgery too, or will I look older than King Tut because I don’t? So far, I’ve avoided the knife and the shots(out of pure cowardice more than moral strength), and people aren’t screaming when they see me. I just think it would be nice if we could preserve some of the original model, and not trade it all in for new parts, like an old car being turned into a new one. So far I’m holding out for the original me, and I may wind up being the last woman on the planet to do so.


Stay tuned…..and have a great week!!!


love, Danielle



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5 Comments so far
  1. Elaine October 21, 2019 12:07 pm

    Dear Danielle,

    I heartily agree! When people began avoiding gluten, they lost weight in their faces too rapidly (developing grooves and wrinkles which necessitate botox today). Scary!

    I hate the bug-eyed, no chin look that women cultivate when they take selfies (are they trying to look like Japanese magna characters? It’s very unfortunate). I also hate the current reliance on foundation, powder, and, especially, drawn-on thick eyebrows. Many women today (and men on TV) look like they’ve been embalmed. I much prefer the more natural look of the 1970s — people were more beautiful then.



  2. Lorraine October 22, 2019 7:10 am

    Dear Danielle,
    I really loved this article….I think along the same lines as you do, even with the texting and the fact no one wants to talk on the phone. I’ve noticed such a trend with “older” singers, movie stars, etc. who look “good”….people always remark how “good” they look and how they never “age”…..the only reason many of them look young is because of the “work” they have done. In a way, it’s very sad.
    I try to “eat right”, but kale is definitely on my list, ha, ha! Walking is the best exercise, and it works perfect for me, as weight is not an issue. It’s great many people eat right and exercise, but like you, I think people take it a bit too far sometimes. Love, Lorraine

  3. Bonnie October 22, 2019 8:01 pm

    Hello Danielle, Thank you for sharing your delightful sense of humor — exercising one week prior to your vacation, wearing a coat over your bathing suit, and not wanting to frighten the children,etc.
    I am 80 years old,and I never have had plastic surgery or enhancements of any kind. It won`t be long before the Lord calls me home, where He has made everything new and beautiful and that includes me, too. Until then, I am happy to relax with one of your novels, enjoy my life with family and friends,and be content with “what nature hands out!!! ”
    Love and blessings, Bonnie

  4. Kerri November 8, 2019 9:31 am

    Hello Danielle,

    I’m in my early 40s, and I would never ever dare to get any work done on my face! Fortunately time and genetics has been kind to me so far – I have not yet started to look my age.

    As for healthy living…I think people forgot that moderation is the key. I don’t give a crap about those creams, etc., – all it does is put you in the red.

    I’m sorry to say this, but the stuff this young generation is doing is actually aging them a few years past their actual age. I’ve never seen so many young movie and TV stars looking older than in this generation. When I was a child, young actors looked their ages and dressed appropriately for their age. The only child celebrity who looked and dressed appropriately for their age is Jojo Siwa (she’s a YouTuber).

  5. Evelyn Longmire September 7, 2021 4:26 pm

    Lovely Lady Danielle! Thank so much for your amazing life and all the wonder and beauty you exude in the numerous collection of books and now audiobooks I have a delightful addiction to ( don’t expect I’ll get professional treatment for this) 🤗 Your unique gifts of empathetic encouragement and healing escape as I loose myself in each powerful drama have been a true respite and comfort in a world so diverse as well as scary and unpredictable (COVID19 ) I will be turning 76 this month and have recently been fighting some depression but after reading about your own life and seeing an example of true success and beauty in you I now realize I want to also say I’m not getting older I’m getting better! Rock on gorgeous!
    Love, EVIE❤️